1) It's acceptable for a man to critique Vox and to suggest that his behavior is other than what it should be. Heaven forbid a woman do so.
I do wonder what the response would have been had someone with a masculine handle been the one to say something. It was rather frustrating to see some of the responses I got and to see my intent and my words misconstrued (sometimes wildly) solely on the basis of the fact that they were written by a woman.
2) Feelings. Most people seemed to believe that I was trying to make people -feel- badly.
In fact, I had tried to be careful about using language that would suggest I wanted people to modify behavior based on what they felt. My last comment sums up my position fairly well.
Oh, I've laughed about the macabre, The Abe. As you said, that's human nature.Edit: I suppose it doesn't hurt to clarify that I believe as Christians, our default behavior when dealing with strangers, acquaintances, friends and family should be respectful. We should continue treating people with respect until they show, through word or action, that such respect is not merited. As Christians, we are also warned about the wickedness of the tongue and the need to keep it restrained.
I've not been speaking of feelings, nor suggesting that anyone here needs to feel badly. I've been speaking of behavior. Just because we have the right to free speech, it does not follow that we should say, or more to the point, print, everything we think. Just because we can make jokes about someone's dead daughter being coyote poop (for an example) does not mean that we should - especially in print in a publicly accessible format.
I see nothing wrong with my belief that behavior should be constrained by respect for other people. Perhaps I'm old-fashioned that way.